Relationships exist everywhere and are established everyday; begining from our spouses, parents, siblings, friends to our neighbours and work environments. The success of our relationships with people, makes us realise how beautiful life can be & helps us to succeed in everything.
If you want your relationship to thrive, you must invest in them by being a giver rather than a taker. Everywhere you go, strive to make relational deposits into people's lives, encouraging them, building them up, and helping them to feel better about themselves.
Granted!!! Its not always easy.... Some people are difficult to be around, because they tend to draw the life and energy out of you. Not that they are bad people, they just drain you. They always have a problem, or some major crisis that they are convinced requires your help to solve. They talk all the time, so much so that, after the conversation is done, you feel as though your emotional energy is gone.
There are also some others that no matter how hard you try, you cant just seem to get any positive ord from them. They are so pessimistic, you never get any encouragement for any suggestion or idea you asked them.
When I was doing my dissertation sometime back, there are times I would just get tired, confused and feel like all I've written was not right. When I spoke to a particular friend of mine about it, to probably cool off and find some advice since he had just recently concluded his. He never encouraged me, he would always be looking and speaking of the negative side of things and of the problems he went through. Jeeezz!!!! I had to stop communicating with him, cos he wasn't adding anything to my life but rather after speaking with him I would feel more troubled.
Difficult people dont make positive deposits, they are too busy making withdrawals. Please dont misunderstand me. Its okay to be down and discouraged occassionally. Everybody has a right to a bad day; but when you begin to have it all the time and rub it on people (like anywhere, anyday, anytime) then, that a problem.
You are not going to have good friendships, if you're always draining the emotional reserves of the people around you. if your're always talking about whats wrong with your life, or how badly people or circumstaces are treating you, thats an extremely selfish way to live. Try to get you mind off yourself and quit living with the ''what can you do for me? attitude'' and replace it with questins such as ''what can i do to help someone else?
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